Talk to your teenagers about smartphone use right now, already!
“Once the talk ended, I had a few suggestions that would help her create a healthy relationship with technology. Much to my surprise, there was no pushback from my daughter when…” The talk this mother referred to pertained to use of her teenage daughter’s use of her smartphone.
My previous post (Influence your children’s behavior and decision-making now ) identifies the two responsibilities I believe we have to our children:
1) To equip them to live through whatever decisions they make; and
2) To try to influence the decisions they make (see: “Science says parents of successful kids have these 13 things in common,”)
In that post I provide a decision-making model and, though helpful as a structure to guide all decisions, there exist many different contexts within which we make decisions. The contexts determine the use of each step to make a particular choice. As I often remind, all skills improve with right practice and repetition. Due to these differences, each context has its own decision-making skill set. These context specific decision-making skill sets improve with right practice and repetition.
Please find the initial quotation in this article at handsfreemama.com and read the article. And then talk to your teens about smartphone use.
Guiding, protecting, raising our teenagers is scary, demanding and scary (double use of descriptor “scary” intentional). A frequent reminder to all of my clients (I work with kids between the ages of 5 and 25): It’s okay to be afraid. If I chose not to act every time I were afraid, there would be days I did not leave my house!
It’s okay to be afraid. And you must not allow your fears prevent you from equipping your children to live through whatever decisions they make and trying to influence the decisions they make. Consequently, talk to your teenagers about smartphone use NOW !!