Author Archives: Dr Neal Hemmelstein

Mindfulness: Parenting & self care

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If we wish our children to develop mindfulness then we must develop mindfulness. Modeling is the most powerful and subtle form of teaching/parenting. The “powerful” part refers to things like: “Here, let me show you. To swing a bat, you hold it this way, stand this way, and swing it this way. Now, you try […]

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A child is much more than a child’s behavior

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Note the distinction made above between your children and their behavior. The distinction is critical. I have worked with many different children of all ages, sizes, colors, and of different backgrounds and I have not met a bad one (and I have worked in places where they send “bad” kids). I have met many who […]

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Template for improved family & self care

 The World According to Neal (1-2-32) provides a template for improved family & self care.  Please look through earlier posts for an expansion on each of the “3s.”  If you thought it helpful to others, please copy and share my 1-2-32. 1) GOAL: To improve self-care (also known as “taking good care of ourselves”). Defined as: […]

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Self care & Family care: 3 Rules apply to both

The last set of three (in 1-2-32: The World According to Neal) consists of three rules I have observed and experienced as powerful guides. When/if I can follow these three rules, I need no other rules to guide my behavior and decision-making. Rule #1: Treat others as I wish them to treat me, but I […]

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Effective Parenting? Accept & Appreciate Yourself

You know a lot. You know a lot about yourself. You’ve learned a lot about life and being you. And you can/must use this knowledge (self and otherwise) for effective parenting. Have you ever had a bad supervisor/employer? You know, the only time she talks to you is in the form of yelling at you […]

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Parenting Tip: Dealing with Bickering Children

When in the vicinity of bickering children I find it quite unpleasant. You, too? Well, consider the following as a means to reduce the frequency, intensity, and duration of such behavior: When your children are bickering, as soon as you become aware of it, say to them something like: “It is not fun being around […]

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Self & Family Care: The Second Three

My books, my work with my clients (people between the ages of 5 and 25), and my personal work are based on principles I have learned and observed as effective towards improving self & family care, “1-2-32.” I also refer to it as “The World According to Neal.” “1-2-32” includes my earlier post, 1-2-3 (posted on […]

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Praise: A Powerful Parenting Tool

Praise from someone who cares about us is the most powerful reinforcement. M&Ms, check marks, stickers, money have their place. And praise from someone who cares about us is the most powerful reinforcement of behavior. Alan Kazdin, PhD., the author of 49 books for professional audiences on topics of parenting and child rearing, child psychotherapy, […]

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Testimonial re: Leader’s Manual

Dr. Neal Hemmelstein’s Leader’s Manual for: Teenagers’ Guide to the Teenage Years- What’s the Big Idea?! provides a rich and powerful two-week curriculum for high school aged (14 – 18 years old) adolescents regarding self-esteem and self-care. He draws upon his many years of experience as a teacher and school psychologist to construct this program. […]

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1, 2, 3! Self-care & Parenting are just that Simple

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The same principles for taking care of your family apply to taking care of yourself. My two books, Parents’ Guide to Parenting Teenagers: Because I Said So!! and Teenagers’ Guide to the Teenage Years: What’s the Big Idea?! are bound together (two books in one!) to reflect that. I believe all of us, all day […]

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