Self care & Family care: 3 Rules apply to both
The last set of three (in 1-2-32: The World According to Neal) consists of three rules I have observed and experienced as powerful guides. When/if I can follow these three rules, I need no other rules to guide my behavior and decision-making.
Rule #1: Treat others as I wish them to treat me, but I am not holding my breath. (Golden Rule)
Only when I do unto others, as I want them to do unto me can I ask them to do unto me in the same fashion. However, while I can ask I cannot expect. Think of an expectation as an appointment. I make appointments, I get disappointments. That is what I mean by “not holding my breath.
Rule #2: Treat myself as I wish others to treat me. (Platinum Rule) Treat myself the way I wish others to treat me. Be an example/model for us as to how I wish to be treated. I wish to be treated with kindness? Be kind to myself. I wish to be treated with respect? Respect myself. I wish to be treated fairly, be fair to myself.
Or more directly: I deserve to be treated well. That includes how I treat myself!!!
Rule #3: Be true to myself. This rule is much more difficult to talk about. Figuring out where “self” stops and “other” begins prompts an ongoing discussion within most of us, particularly as parents. However, the better I get at following the first two rules, the better I will understand what it means to be true to myself.
Next post will contain the complete 1-2-32 (aka The World According to Neal).
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